I’ve come a long way from being a stressed-out little girl with the weight of the world on her shoulders. I’ve done the work to dismantle my core negative beliefs; “I’m not smart enough to do this, I need to be better than everyone at everything, no one will like me if I’m not achieving all the things all the time” – and yeah, sometimes that work involved a breakdown or three.
The truth is I developed most of these foundational feelings as a child, as we all do, and carried them into adulthood without realising the weight of that emotional baggage.
The world around us shapes us into who we are, and when we’re little, we don’t really have a say in that.
But the other side of the coin is, as adults, we can do a little digging, discover our core values, feelings, and beliefs, and unearth them like dusty gems. Then we need to brush them off and put them on display. That’s the tricky bit.
But we’re powerful people. I am. You are. We can lead the lives we actually want, not those we think we should be leading in order to please others.
Sounds scary, doesn’t it? That means you’re in the right place. Read on.